A recent survey of my readers reported that many of you work for people who fall somewhere along the spectrum of being Horrible Bosses. On one end there are classic ‘Horrible Boss’ horror stories: a boss who is sexist or racist; a boss who takes all the credit; a boss thinks you have no life & makes you work late everyday; or, a boss who is a pathological liar.
We love to make fun of bad bosses, from the Dilbert comics, Michael from “The Office”, to the officious boss of the movie “Office Space” … but bad bosses are no laughing matter when you have to face him or her every single working day of your life.
But there is another kind of ‘Horrible Boss’. One exponentially more prevalent and damaging than bullies … the poor, mediocre or poorly trained manager. A US study found that almost 80 percent of the employees surveyed identified their boss as a lousy manager and almost 70 percent stated that their immediate superior had “no clue” what to do to become a good manager.
In my case I had a boss with who I was close and thought considered myself a trusted confidant. Over time she went quiet, stopped sharing reasons for decisions and stopped responding. People were hired people onto the leadership team, of which I belonged, whom I believed did not demonstrate the standards I expected of them. My performance began to slip and my reactions to events were not always as professional as I either hoped or was expected of me.
In retrospect all the signs pointed to the simple fact that I was nearing, or had gone past, my best before date as far as she was concerned. To be clear I have never purported myself to be perfect in any regard but in this case I was dealing with a boss who was not providing me clear and proper performance management nor effective leadership.
What did I do? Well to quote one of the best bands of all time, The Clash, I had to decide: “Should I stay or should I go now? If I go there will be trouble and if I stay it will be double”
I had to decide if it was time to stay or go … now … before someone decided for me!
I took control and managed my own fate.
Are you dealing with a horrible boss?
Here are 4 actions you need to do to protect your self, your professionalism and possibly your career.
- Are you right?
Have you carefully and honestly evaluated your actions and behaviour? How have you been doing your job? Have you always taken the high road, or have you been under-performing?
Hey let’s be honest here: No one is as good as they think they are. You just might be a horrible employee.
That said, you’re human and the people closest to you will affect your performance, so try to focus on your work to see if that changes anything.
- Keep a journal
Start journaling your interactions with the boss. Don’t judge or write emotional reactions; simply document the facts of the situation and how your and your boss’ behaviour has impacted your performance.
Writing things out dispassionately allows you to articulate and evaluate the event with less emotion. You can then pick it apart to see what and where things went wrong.
An added bonus of keeping a journal is for your protection in case things turn completely pear-shaped. Your journal can support you in any settlement or package negotiations.
- Be careful complaining
I am not talking about illegalities or improprieties, if these sexual harassment, fraud or anything wrong is going on you have an obligation to report it to someone. But sometimes even being right can still get you fired.
I have a friend who was 100% correct in their assessment that their boss was a horrible boss. She regularly went over the boss’s head and complained and it wasn’t very long before she was shown out the door. The boss in question was eventually fired based on poor performance, but that was little solace to my unemployed but morally correct friend.
In my experience you seldom win a fight with your boss. Management will usually close ranks around their own and you simply can’t win against such a formidably opponent. They, Management, will deal with that poor performing manager in their own way, but they won’t lose collective face to you or anyone.
- Don’t sacrifice your health or self-esteem
The worst thing you can do is nothing hope the problems will get resolved. No job, boss, or company is worth losing your health, sanity, or self-esteem.
If you can’t find a way to resolve these issues and/or your boss simply will never change his/her behaviour, you should immediately start working your network and begin looking for a new job.
Try not to quit before you find a new job, but again, if work just becomes too unbearable, you may need to consider quitting to save yourself.
When dealing with a horrible boss is quite similar to being in a destructive or failing personal relationship. Eventually you have to decide …
Should I Stay Or Should I Go Now.